Wikipedia defines “wedding planner” as “a professional who assists with the design, planning and management of a client’s wedding.”
If you believe Hollywood stereotypes, wedding planners mostly run around in really sexy business suits, dictating to the couple how things should and should not be done, ordering them to spend more money, berating their choices, and then breaking up their impending nuptials by falling in love with the groom.
As you might guess, we find both of these definitions lacking. Wikipedia is on the right track, but there’s an apostrophe in the wrong spot – “client’s” = one person, and we’re pretty sure it takes two to get married. This is a major problem with the wedding industry, both in fictional and real-life forms – everywhere you look, it is all about the BRIDE, and the groom just shows up. First of all – we think it’s critical to work with BOTH people who are getting married, and secondly, we’re not cool with excluding same-sex couples from the equation.
On to Hollywood. Well, there may be some planners out there who fit film and television portrayals and there are certainly many who will try to sell you on their ideas of what makes a wedding perfect (both in how it’s done and in how much it costs), but we are not those people.
So, what’s our definition of a wedding planner? Well, we define our job as doing whatever needs to be done so that your wedding happens the way you both want it to, within the budget you’ve set for yourselves, and you spend the day enjoying all the love and not stressing about the details. What exactly that is varies from couple to couple, but it can include budget development, creation of a wedding planning timeline, vendor and venue research, contract negotiation, design and execution of décor elements, attendance at vendor meetings, site visits, guest list management, wedding website management, travel arrangements, assistance with DIY/DIT projects, and coordination of additional wedding-related events.
Now, you can absolutely do all of these things without a wedding planner, but here are some reasons that you might not want to:
- You’ve never planned a big party before, and you have no idea where to start or how to do it
- You know exactly what you want, but you can’t seem to find the vendors to make it happen
- You want to spend your wedding day basking in the glow, not setting up centerpieces, making sure the DJ plays the right first dance song, or telling the caterer which course comes out first
- You need help figuring out how to get what you want within your budget
- Your DIY projects have exploded in your living room and you can’t see how you’ll finish in time
- You need someone experienced to talk through your ideas with
Whether you choose to hire us, someone else, or no one at all, we strongly encourage you to hand off all the details to someone you trust on your wedding day, so that you can be fully present for it.
That’s it for today! The next post will be about the difference between Full Planning, Partial Planning, and Day-of-Coordination, so stay tuned.