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We’re not in it. You probably knew that already. Today is National Coming Out Day. And so, we’re saying it, out loud, in print, on the internet where nothing ever really goes away:

We are gay!
We’re on an incredibly true adventure of two girls in love.
And we even got married.
Yes, if these walls could talk,
they’d be bound to say we are
the real ‘L’ word.
We’re here, we’re queer, and you’re already used to it!

You may think in this day and age that being a letter in the LGBTQ (that’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning) acronym is no big deal… and you’re right.

But you’re also wrong. Because there are still plenty of homophobic people out there. And there are plenty of people who don’t think they’re bigots but actually; they are. They’re worse, if you ask me. You know the ones – they “love the sinner, but hate the sin” – they say they love you, but they really refuse to respect that you were born this way.

Anyway. The point of this event is to raise awareness, which in turn will lead to equal rights for all of us. That’s the thing – many people voting away our rights believe they don’t know any LGBTQ people and we must all live in the liberal cities or something, but we are EVERYWHERE. And we are just living our lives. And we would like to have the same rights as everyone else, the rights to which we are entitled, and which we are denied by DOMA and similar legislation at state levels. And we would like to live without fear of being attacked for simply being who we are. And we would like to be treated as equals, without needing to prove our marriages in order to see our loved ones in the hospital, or spend thousands of dollars to create legal documents which protect our families, the way heterosexual couples are automatically protected, with just $35 and a 3-day wait at the City Hall. We would like these things not because they benefit us personally, but because discrimination is wrong, plain and simple.

We know that we are preaching to the choir here, but know that you are important in this fight. It’s just as critical, if not more so, that our straight allies come out, too! Because, let’s face it, we’ll never win the majority vote alone. Ask someone what they mean when they say, “That’s so gay!”; don’t stand by silently when someone makes a derogatory remark; tell your grandma how awesome your gay best friend is. COME OUT WITH US, and promise to do it again next year, and the next, and the next, and the next, until homophobia is gone.

We leave you with the immortal words of Harvey Milk:

“If they know us, they don’t vote against us…
Brothers and sisters you must come out!
Come out to your parents; come out to your friends, if indeed they are your friends.
Come out to your neighbors, come out to your fellow workers!
Once and for all let’s break down the myths and destroy the lies and distortions. For your sake, for their sake…
On the Statue of Liberty it says, ‘give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to be free’.
In the Declaration of Independence it is written – ‘all men are created equal, and endowed with certain inalienable rights.’
So to all the bigots out there – no matter how hard you try, you can never erase those words from the Declaration of Independence!
No matter how hard you try, you can never chip those words from the face of the Statue of Liberty!
That is what America is! Love it or leave it!”

p.s. All those movie links in the bold part at the top? Totally worth watching. Though if you check out the L Word, we recommend you just watch the first two seasons on repeat six times and spare yourself the agony of seasons 3-6.